Comments on: Drifting http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/ A blog about my late husband, George Maddox, who died after being injured in a plane crash. About grief, marriage, love and unexpected loss. Tue, 03 Jan 2012 18:23:15 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Becky http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/comment-page-1/#comment-1552 Becky Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:34:22 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=841#comment-1552 When I read your post my heart aches for all of you. My problems seem so small and I feel guilty complaing about them. Keep your strength up but its ok to melt away too. New house...new life certainly not the one you would of chose but you are making it the best you can. I'm sure its tough where you are now with Georges presence everywhere. He will be with you in the new house too. I only hope its a leittle more peaceful in the mountains. Now as for the dog he's grieving too. Try giving him a aspirin a day in peanut butter or cheese for his aching bones. Wishing peace to all of you and sending big hugs. Becky When I read your post my heart aches for all of you. My problems seem so small and I feel guilty complaing about them. Keep your strength up but its ok to melt away too. New house…new life certainly not the one you would of chose but you are making it the best you can. I’m sure its tough where you are now with Georges presence everywhere. He will be with you in the new house too. I only hope its a leittle more peaceful in the mountains. Now as for the dog he’s grieving too. Try giving him a aspirin a day in peanut butter or cheese for his aching bones. Wishing peace to all of you and sending big hugs.
Becky

]]> By: Lynn Stroud http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Lynn Stroud Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:36:38 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=841#comment-1551 you have a real solid grip on what you need to do and yet you do need forgive yourself this time you need to grieve and not be yourself completely. children are so resilient and if it takes you a year or so before you feel like playing and such, so be it. it's part of life, taking time to regroup, digest it all and let it take its natural course. i'm just glad you haven't lost sight of the mom and person you plan to be again when time has created enough space to heal some of the fresh wounds. lilly is still young and there will be plenty of time to get back in the swing of things with her when you start feeling better about your new life path. hang in there. hugs. you have a real solid grip on what you need to do and yet you do need forgive yourself this time you need to grieve and not be yourself completely. children are so resilient and if it takes you a year or so before you feel like playing and such, so be it. it’s part of life, taking time to regroup, digest it all and let it take its natural course. i’m just glad you haven’t lost sight of the mom and person you plan to be again when time has created enough space to heal some of the fresh wounds. lilly is still young and there will be plenty of time to get back in the swing of things with her when you start feeling better about your new life path. hang in there. hugs.

]]> By: joy http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/comment-page-1/#comment-1550 joy Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:36:42 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=841#comment-1550 Seek counseling for you and Lily. I know you have been trying to find someone, but take it from someone who has gone (not really thinking I needed it and putting it off), you will hopefully leave with tools to understand and cope, and most importantly, you will be able to help Lily find her way. Moving forward is wonderful but moving on with unresolved baggage will likely make the journey more difficult and in the end, no matter how "new" things are, that old baggage may still weigh on you and Lily, making your "new" life feeling that much more like "old". NONE of this is easy for sure, but then this is what makes us a stronger, more resilient and an even more wonderful and caring person. Seek counseling for you and Lily. I know you have been trying to find someone, but take it from someone who has gone (not really thinking I needed it and putting it off), you will hopefully leave with tools to understand and cope, and most importantly, you will be able to help Lily find her way. Moving forward is wonderful but moving on with unresolved baggage will likely make the journey more difficult and in the end, no matter how “new” things are, that old baggage may still weigh on you and Lily, making your “new” life feeling that much more like “old”. NONE of this is easy for sure, but then this is what makes us a stronger, more resilient and an even more wonderful and caring person.

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/comment-page-1/#comment-1549 fifilaroach Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:59:21 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=841#comment-1549 I know. It's sad. Of course she has mixed feelings. I actually feel grateful that she can tell me how she feels. It's hard, though. Maybe your girl NEEDS a fairy party! You got lots of wings over there, I know. It might be just what you need! I know. It’s sad. Of course she has mixed feelings. I actually feel grateful that she can tell me how she feels. It’s hard, though.

Maybe your girl NEEDS a fairy party! You got lots of wings over there, I know. It might be just what you need!

]]> By: Debby http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/02/28/drifting/comment-page-1/#comment-1548 Debby Mon, 01 Mar 2010 11:19:39 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=841#comment-1548 Oh, Lisa. The tears are falling down my cheeks as I literally sob. What did me in was that Lily told you she wished it had been you instead of George. That poor little girl! Poor You! I would do anything I could to take a little of the pain away from you two lovely ladies, but I can't. Just know that I love you both! I don't know Sara but tell her thank you for me! My little girl is having her birthday on the 7th of March -- she'll be 35. Yikes! I'm not giving her a fairy party though. Oh, Lisa. The tears are falling down my cheeks as I literally sob. What did me in was that Lily told you she wished it had been you instead of George. That poor little girl! Poor You! I would do anything I could to take a little of the pain away from you two lovely ladies, but I can’t. Just know that I love you both! I don’t know Sara but tell her thank you for me!

My little girl is having her birthday on the 7th of March — she’ll be 35. Yikes! I’m not giving her a fairy party though.

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