Comments on: The Dust is Settling

By: sueann weaver sparks

sueann weaver sparks — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:15:20 +0000

George’s ring just might be in the hospital safe.. when Dad had his severe auto acident in ’06 they would not let me claim his items until he was able to say it was o-kay.. they still tried to refuse me for Mother at that time with her new daignosis,(sorry spelling), of vascular dimentia could not tell them what he had in his wallet.. I finally obtained his items and his teeth from their safe when they allowed Dad to awaken from his 17 day coma…I even held health care power of attorney and power of attornery for both of them.. when they finally brought me Dad’s things from the safe.. I was asked certain ?’s.. I told them what he might have in his wallet.. and I knew if he had less then 1,000 cash then the moths would soon be flying.. for he like his male family here like cash and had to assist their employees’ too many times out of jail for their monies went to parties and madness….. they were still unsure of handing it over to Mom and I insured them someone hurt my Mom they go thru me.. So, ask the hospital and tell them you were not clear of all of your husband’s effects and now ,it has been five months and you would like his items: expecially his wedding band, out of their safe unless they have already sold them of which they can do here in good old North Carolina.. a very backwards state…Unless, it had with his massive burns had melted into his finger.. ask them for all records, meaning: nursing notes, doctors’ procedures, all files of which you are entitled to..
Also, you might want to cancel his classmate article.. He had looked at my address two months before his accident.. this is a cost of 15/30 a few months and year.. seems like he was trying to contact his old class.. If you need the address let me know and I’ll forward my contact to you so you can be delivered free of this charge.. By the way, he looked but never contacted me, next thing I knew I heard of the accident….. These are lessons I am learning with my parents and their health and upcomming deaths.. Dad was very, very fortunate with his auto accident and we are very lucky to have him here today.. I have learned how to fight many devils off when it comes to their care. After all, during their times I was caring for Dad’s Mother and my father-in-law passed six months after getting Dad home from his car crash.. Grandmother was a few months before at 100.. so be hit by four at one time and many different hospitals at one time…. many miles away
Mother’s deminta becomming worse.. Yet Mom looks like mustard gas hit her ass.. sores, she can’t walk, won’t talk , has to be treated like a child, dress and bath her. Can’t get assistance for her for medicare doesn’t think live threatening.. Dad just went yesterday for dye catscan think liver, kidneys or chron’s back since auto accident.. so see,yes we made it last year thru one home on my b’day and rushing the next to hospital, rush one dear.. but yes smile, shoulders back and grin.. people will wonder what is on your mind…best med.. while smiling shoulders back… just think of all those assisting you naked!! LAUGH.. works wonders..

By: lynn stroud

lynn stroud — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 07:08:18 +0000

If they don’t let her attend the ice cream party, you should take her out to lunch that day and make sure you get her ice cream. This should be excused by the school most definitely.

By: Becky Edwards

Becky Edwards — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:06:50 +0000

Wow again…..Tell Lily she did a great job of reading and let her have a ice cream party. She could also write a letter to the teacher (which she should NOT have to) and say I will read a book a month to make up for it. How cruel for the school to not allow her to attend. You mydear are so strong….yes George would love to have you use his towel rack. I feel the peace in your heart doing that and I hope it brought a closeness to you. One thing you could do with old Tshirts and I’m sure he had alot of them is make a quilt for Lily and you to snuggle under when ever you need to feel him with you. Take care of yourself and Miss Lily. You both amaze me .
Becky

By: joy

joy — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:19:05 +0000

you have a plan and that’s great! it’s all part of “living” and trying to move forward! We, all your cyberspace pals are cheering you on, as you move through time and space, and finally as you get to that next “step”. whatever that is and whenever that happens is under your control. I bet if you follow your heart (not worrying about “should I have done this, did I do that, what if, etc.” you’ll do “right” by George. Grief is a strange thing, everyone comes through it differently, some don’t really feel it for years and some feel it for what seems like years… You are doing whatever is best for you and Lily and that’s all that matters…and seeking help if you need it is THE BEST for sure. Hang in there…Hugs.