Comments on: Poor Sugarbelle http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/ A blog about my late husband, George Maddox, who died after being injured in a plane crash. About grief, marriage, love and unexpected loss. Thu, 22 Mar 2012 02:57:11 -0400 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: joy http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1485 joy Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:12:54 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1485 keep posting and sad/bad times always feel like a standstill...but time IS passing, and when that day comes when the season of your heart is again spring, you may look back and wonder, WOW, how did we all get through it! and you will see that you DID! It's being in the darkest of tunnels that skews "time". haiti puts a reality on LIFE. tragedy has a way of doing that, making us wake up and appreciate. Hang in there...J keep posting and sad/bad times always feel like a standstill…but time IS passing, and when that day comes when the season of your heart is again spring, you may look back and wonder, WOW, how did we all get through it! and you will see that you DID! It’s being in the darkest of tunnels that skews “time”.

haiti puts a reality on LIFE. tragedy has a way of doing that, making us wake up and appreciate.

Hang in there…J

]]> By: Sharon Mullally http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1481 Sharon Mullally Sun, 24 Jan 2010 01:59:54 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1481 Hi Lisa, I am sorry you are hurting so much! I know I was one of those people that told you about time, and how in time you will find a place for your pain. And yet it has been 15 years since my son died and yet, I still hurt, some days like it was yesterday that he died...and some days like today, I did not think about him until tonight. Occasionally, I might go a day without thinking about him, but not too often. I can't even tell you it hurts less, because some days this is true but some days not. It is what it is. It is life and it hurts. The things that make life worth living and worth continuing to live are friends. The act of sharing our pain with others, taking a risk and letting others know our pain. The risk, that is LIVING!!!!! You are living whether you know it or not and one day you, Lily, and Sara will wake up on the other side and George will be smiling and proud of his family!! When you come to NOLA, let us know. Jeannie and I are friends and we will team up and make a road trip to come meet a NEW FRIEND!!! Sharon Hi Lisa,
I am sorry you are hurting so much! I know I was one of those people that told you about time, and how in time you will find a place for your pain. And yet it has been 15 years since my son died and yet, I still hurt, some days like it was yesterday that he died…and some days like today, I did not think about him until tonight. Occasionally, I might go a day without thinking about him, but not too often. I can’t even tell you it hurts less, because some days this is true but some days not. It is what it is. It is life and it hurts.
The things that make life worth living and worth continuing to live are friends. The act of sharing our pain with others, taking a risk and letting others know our pain. The risk, that is LIVING!!!!! You are living whether you know it or not and one day you, Lily, and Sara will wake up on the other side and George will be smiling and proud of his family!!
When you come to NOLA, let us know. Jeannie and I are friends and we will team up and make a road trip to come meet a NEW FRIEND!!!

Sharon

]]> By: Ev. Calderone http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1478 Ev. Calderone Sat, 23 Jan 2010 17:07:35 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1478 Lisa ~ As I said in my first note to you, even though we've never met, I feel in my heart that I've always known you,George, Lily & Sara. I look forward to the day I read your post that tells us you are feeling a tiny bit better and by posting you are getting there without even knowing it. I, too, cried the day we lost George and had never met him so I can not even begin to imagine the extent of your pain and hurting but I know that happiness, when shared, multiplies and sadness,when shared, diminishes and that is what you are working on by your posts to us, so keep posting. God bless. Lisa ~ As I said in my first note to you, even though we’ve never met, I feel in my heart that I’ve always known you,George, Lily & Sara. I look forward to the day I read your post that tells us you are feeling a tiny bit better and by posting you are getting there without even knowing it. I, too, cried the day we lost George and had never met him so I can not even begin to imagine the extent of your pain and hurting but I know that happiness, when shared, multiplies and sadness,when shared, diminishes and that is what you are working on by your posts to us, so keep posting. God bless.

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1477 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:16:50 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1477 It was not a good idea. I wanted to watch, because I want to be engaged in the world again, but I knew right away it was going to turn out badly... I just thought maybe I could get away with it. It was not a good idea. I wanted to watch, because I want to be engaged in the world again, but I knew right away it was going to turn out badly… I just thought maybe I could get away with it.

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1476 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:13:21 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1476 xoxo xoxo

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1475 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:13:03 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1475 Thanks Lynne. A few people have commented some of the posts are too sad to read and that set me off to thinking, once again, that maybe honesty is not always the best policy in this case. But it always is, isn't it? Thanks Lynne. A few people have commented some of the posts are too sad to read and that set me off to thinking, once again, that maybe honesty is not always the best policy in this case. But it always is, isn’t it?

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1474 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:11:34 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1474 Not drunk, too afraid of the aftereffects to go down that road. It does get bad sometimes, though of course we will be okay. I need something to look forward to, that always helps me. So I'm going to plan a trip to New Orleans in May, I think. I miss NOLA, and the Haitian crisis is making me think about the aftermath of Katrina. My poor New Orleans is suffering still. Not drunk, too afraid of the aftereffects to go down that road. It does get bad sometimes, though of course we will be okay. I need something to look forward to, that always helps me. So I’m going to plan a trip to New Orleans in May, I think. I miss NOLA, and the Haitian crisis is making me think about the aftermath of Katrina. My poor New Orleans is suffering still.

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1473 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 15:57:19 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1473 Good idea. Going to the doc on Thursday, I'll get it checked. Thanks Bets. Good idea. Going to the doc on Thursday, I’ll get it checked. Thanks Bets.

]]> By: fifilaroach http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1472 fifilaroach Sat, 23 Jan 2010 15:55:59 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1472 Becky, I'm so impressed with Kristi! What a girl! She sent Lily that package after George died, and Lily said, "How can she know me so well?" Ponies, fairies, barbie and more in a hand decorated box filled made with love. It really made Lily feel better. She is such a kind little girl. You are doing something very right with her, and she is going to be some kind of wonderful woman. Thanks for all the kind words from her mommy too. xoxo Becky, I’m so impressed with Kristi! What a girl! She sent Lily that package after George died, and Lily said, “How can she know me so well?” Ponies, fairies, barbie and more in a hand decorated box filled made with love. It really made Lily feel better. She is such a kind little girl. You are doing something very right with her, and she is going to be some kind of wonderful woman. Thanks for all the kind words from her mommy too. xoxo

]]> By: Becky and Kristi http://rememberinggeorge.com/2010/01/22/poor-sugarbelle/comment-page-1/#comment-1471 Becky and Kristi Sat, 23 Jan 2010 13:18:31 +0000 http://rememberinggeorge.com/?p=742#comment-1471 Keep on posting we need to hear from you. You show me how to deal with my own crap in life. If I feel overwhelmed with things I often think about you guys. My little crap can't compare to yours or to Haiti. Dealing with my mother in laws dementia can be very trying. Having to bath her, change her underwear, repeat myself over and over every day, every minute but ya know what she's here with me. I wouldn't have it any other way. Just dealing with my daily struggles. I can't even imagine your daily struggles. Ya know when I didn't see post from you I was concerned, so I sent you a facebook message. Your post help so many people focuse on the true things that we need to. Keep writing let out your pain and heart. We are all here for you both. Kristi just donated all her savings to Haiti last night on the telethon. Yes tell Miss Lily her lifes savings. LOL She had $47 saved and together we donated $100. I feel this is teaching her a great lesson in life. She often ask about Lily and she wants to write her a letter. Kids can handle things alot better than us. I feel your pain and wish I could take it away....but I can't. Just know that many of people are praying for you. I'm still waiting to read your book one day. My hearts goes out to all of you. That mountain is calling your name and may the move give you some peace after the many hurdles you've jumped thru. Becky Keep on posting we need to hear from you. You show me how to deal with my own crap in life. If I feel overwhelmed with things I often think about you guys. My little crap can’t compare to yours or to Haiti. Dealing with my mother in laws dementia can be very trying. Having to bath her, change her underwear, repeat myself over and over every day, every minute but ya know what she’s here with me. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Just dealing with my daily struggles. I can’t even imagine your daily struggles. Ya know when I didn’t see post from you I was concerned, so I sent you a facebook message. Your post help so many people focuse on the true things that we need to. Keep writing let out your pain and heart. We are all here for you both.
Kristi just donated all her savings to Haiti last night on the telethon. Yes tell Miss Lily her lifes savings. LOL She had $47 saved and together we donated $100. I feel this is teaching her a great lesson in life. She often ask about Lily and she wants to write her a letter. Kids can handle things alot better than us. I feel your pain and wish I could take it away….but I can’t. Just know that many of people are praying for you. I’m still waiting to read your book one day. My hearts goes out to all of you. That mountain is calling your name and may the move give you some peace after the many hurdles you’ve jumped thru.
Becky

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