Comments on: Numb Dee Dum Dum

By: Kristina Shultz

Kristina Shultz — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:05:00 +0000

you take it one day at a time as slow a pace as you wish….your soul mate has been taken from you. You are allowed to grieve as long as you need to. You have been there for Lily and that is what George would have wanted. I can only imagine what you are feeling, and how you even get out of bed on a daily basis. I can only imagine because I have not lived it. I wish you the best this holiday season. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

By: cindy

cindy — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 07:01:10 +0000

I read somewhere (maybe you wrote it) that a sudden death, or traumatic event, cannot be processed quickly by the brain. A healthy brain will push everything to “the back room” and then slowly, over time, absorb and process the information . That is what that feeling of “not being here” is about. The process is really slow, so you will notice improvement only later. You’ll look back in 6 months and realize how far you’ve come, etc. Hang in there!!!

By: joy

joy — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 05:41:30 +0000

You feel what you feel, and it’s real. You miss George terribly. You’re doing your best to give Christmas to Lily, to make it as happy as it was …. you’re doing the best you can do…that’s all you can do and so enjoy every moment as best as you can. It is true TIME will pass and with time life will find you and vice versa. Everyone comes through trauma at their own pace, in their own way, and so forget the ice on your sidewalk and driveway and what the neighbors think. If they don’t like it then they can help you remove it. You have a wonderful loving family, beautiful Lily, plans for a new house that will be your home, and you have a life worth living, even though right now, it seems empty without your soulmate. You will again find joy, life, real laughter, and someday you will look back at these dark horrible days…. and be amazed at how you grew and became a new person.

By: Ines

Ines — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 04:24:04 +0000

No need to question the presence or absence of your thoughts and emotions. This experience is personal to you and you alone. You are entiteled to that. Just find the strength to ask for help when you need it, with snow in your driveway and all the other more or less frozen things. I have another book recommendation for you… Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. This is not like the book I sent you, but it talks a lot about coming to terms with loss and endings and finding oneself. They Pray part was very powerful for me. I am glad your family (and Hello Kitty) are staying close.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 03:23:27 +0000

live only the present, I know why a child its difficult but live the present, we can not change the past, and the future we dont know what will happend even we will have many plans, the only thing that we can do its accept the presnt and live this one how it is.
have faith in God its the only person that can hep you to understand all this,faith, pray . he is holding you now in all this difficult time.