Comments on: Old Habits Die Hard

By: Jeannie Hebert

Jeannie Hebert — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:38:49 +0000

Dearest Lisa I am still here in the wings, still thinking of you & your heart ache…Time is all we really have…take it and embrace it! I to was told to move on! sounds so easy! If only there was a magic pill! but…I know it does not exist. Been 12 1/2 years since my other half left this life taking part of my being and leaving half of his in my heart..I have grown over the years having his love to grow within my soul,,don’t be afraid! The love you feel never goes away…in the end all you have left is the missing…I still have days & nights of longing…But mostly I have warm loving feelings when I think of him or hear that song or speak his name or feel his presence and I find myself smiling…don’t recall when I made that transition..but it happened…Life is good It will be good for you again too! Hang in there Lisa You will come along when you are ready….Stay strong…You will find peace again I promise you that…All my love to you & Lily & Sara

By: Tracey

Tracey — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:18:30 +0000

When I “lost” my husband 15 years ago, I had read that it takes 2-5 YEARS to get over it, normally. I was STARTING to get better after 2 years, Lisa. Is there really someone out there who is giving you advice that you should start moving on? Not meaning to sound indelicate, but they probably have their head up their ass.
So, now here’s my advice: Whatever you’re thinking or doing is OKAY. Don’t try to think differently, or act differently. Don’t resist your current normal inclination to stay up late and think whatever thoughts you want. Or as Paul McCartney said, just “Let It Be.” And maybe show yourself a little compassion and acceptance.

By: Becky

Becky — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:02:48 +0000

In the next 2 months you’ll move a little more and then more and more. No time is needed here. Take it slow and go at your own pace. Perhaps watch a western movie w/ some popcorn. It’s OK to cry and laugh. May the memories out weigh the tears and may laughter shine thru. Having just lost my Uncle last week I get to relive the pain of death again. What can we do but go on…..and remember our happy times. Peace to you both. Keep posting you are an inspiration to many. Who says you have to change your schedule it will happen when you are ready. Hugs to you both.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:08:14 +0000

I dont know you and you dont know me. BUt I work at Quest I am a tech and I fele so sad when I hear about the plane . 2 months its really nothing, yes the time Help but you wll never never forget anyhting everything even troguht the years will be in your heart for ever, even the others dont even ask more for him.I Know the time will help you and the little Lily, she will be the inspiration of your live, she will be the motor fo your heart. but dont force yourself to move over. Pray and pray and give this moment to God he will hold you and help you in your live, only God. and george will be your angel there when you need help.
The holiday I think this is the ones that you will found more difficult to live, all the memories willback and when you most wish ans ask why he is not here with us.But God will be the courage to move foward.

By: betsy

betsy — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:40:57 +0000

two months is really no time at all, no matter the reason, unless you’re seven years old. one of the realizations i have about your situation is that you now have a keen awareness of time both from your daughter’s perspective and your own, because grieving, like loving, is the only real time there is. that kind of time does not respect calendars or clocks because it is not measured that way. madeleine l’engle uses the word kairos–God’s time–to describe this(the wikipedia entry about kairos is also interesting). she was talking about creativity but i think it also applies here. bless you both……hugs, b

By: Doreen

Doreen — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:29:10 +0000

It’s been a good 10 years since my brother died of heroine. Went to see the Australian Pink Floyd and cried all the way through “Comfortably Numb”. Still can’t hear that song…..These things take time. If you can travel, do so. A real distraction…..I’m still listening and love you both!!